My moment of love
I came across this
news report in Times of India and was wondering how in this country everything
from constitution to consummation is upheld and decided by judiciary.
But what remain
stuck in my teeth was the classic husband - wife conflict. Wives usually
complain about the lack of love or at least the lack of expression of it and
husbands usually ignore.
Wife - "You are no more the romantic that you were in
college."
Husband - "Pyaar se ghar nahi chalta. Love won't keep us
alive when we are hungry."
Wife - "Correction - Sirf pyaar se
ghar nahi chalta, aur na pyaar ke bina chalta hai."
Most wives, I guess,
do not doubt the love but yammer the inexpression of it. Bhagi too did, but she
was patient with me probably because she understood me better than myself. Here
is what she had to say about love….her love.
For everyone who
knows my husband, he comes across as a person whose entire life is his
work or business. Everything else, family, friends, love, romance,………is
secondary. Even I am not sure whether I can deny this!!! ;)
During our dating days (which was a good 5+ years long
distance relationship which was virtually non-existent - pun intended), I have
always had to compete with his job to get his attention - by this I mean even a
single phone call. And there would be weeks wherein we wouldn't talk to each
other.
After he quit his job, he has been married to his
business. I wouldn't be exaggerating if I say that I am probably his second
wife!!!
However there comes a moment in everybody's life when
love & relationship become stronger than ever. Don't get me wrong here.
There is no doubt in my mind that my husband loves me a lot…… there is just
that lack of expression of this love.
Anyway, my moment of love came at a very least
expected time. I had a missed abortion earlier this year (2014) and was
scheduled for a surgery (D&C), which was quite suddenly decided. We went to
the doctor the previous evening who said that she would perform the D&C the
next morning.
The day started very early (at 4:30 or 5 am to be
precise). We had been called at 7 am and had to take a medicine that early. My
hubby dearest, who usually sleeps like a baby even through my persistent
coughing, was up and about with me thought the day. He avoided all his calls
and work and was there by my side. The procedure got postponed from 10:30 am to
about 4:30 pm & he, who is fussy about eating on time, was there till I was
taken into the procedure room. He said he would eat while I was in the
procedure, but there he was as soon as I was reeled out. In that period between
bouts of consciousness and unconsciousness, he held my hands (both hands at an
awkward position) and never let go.
After I was fully awake, he ensured that he lent me his shoulder to lean
on. Even while the match was on (some India's cricket match) he had an eye on
me and was next to me to press my head when I grimaced with pain.
Not once in that entire day was he concerned about
'Baron' primarily. I was his cynosure throughout. He did everything for me
unsaid & unasked for.
- I may be second to 'Baron' at normal times.
- My hubby may not be the romantic, mushy boyfriend that he was back in college.
- He may not profess his love every day.
But I surely know that when it matters the most, he
will be there for me - completely & utterly……well , if this isn't true love
then what is????
Bhagi
Bhagi did teach me
that - Just because someone doesn't love you
the way you want to be loved, it doesn't mean that the person doesn't love you at all.
But I surely did became more expressive after this and now after all these
years I know that love does keep us alive.
So don't you wait. I
would say to you to go and tell your partner how much you love him or her. And if you
are wondering how to? then here is a song . A song for all the eternal lovers.
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ReplyDeleteI might be really emotional right now and out of words to express. It's been a very very short time span i know you but after this blog it feels i could feel your heart, Bhagi's love and the bond you both shared.
ReplyDeleteLove will keep us alive <3
Antra, glad you liked it.
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